Fed Up Of Flakiness

Recently I’ve been trying some new things in my professional blogging life that have involved joining some specialist groups and ‘tribes’ with a view to increasing interaction.  Up front people are asked to only join if they are committed or active and the idea usually is that people get involved daily or near daily.  It’s quite a commitment, but it can be worth it if people take part.

Part of the problem is that the groups need to be small to be workable, but that is also problematic if people don’t pull their weight as there aren’t enough involved to carry a lot of slack.  I know sometimes something unexpected comes up and takes over your life and I know that everyone needs a break now and again.  That’s not really been the problem in these groups though.

People seem to have signed up to doing something and then almost immediately failed to do it.  This leaves the few who are doing the necessary feeling a bit stranded.  You either carry on the group with the dead weight in it or you start to (nicely) manage them out and find some new participants.  Sometimes though there just aren’t enough active members of the group to do that and everything just fizzles out.

One of my groups, one that I was quite excited about, has done just that.  I’ve given up posting in the group because no one else was and my posts were just sitting there unliked.  The frustrating thing with that one is that group members are posting elsewhere, so it’s not clear why they didn’t in this group.

Another one seems to be dying.  The organiser is trying new things trying to inject some light into it, but it’s really only me and her posting regularly.  A few others dip in and out, but no one else seems very committed.

Maybe I’m a bit old-fashioned, but I’m a bit ‘my word is my bond’ and I will endeavour to meet my commitments if I put myself forward for something.  Sadly not everyone seems to think the same way.


Anyone who uses the word ‘remoaners’ as an insult to another needs to take a good, hard look at themselves as a human being.  My first thought is that it is a phrase that belongs in the playground and there is certainly an immature thing to do to call someone or even a group of people that.  To say it belongs in the playground though would be saying it’s acceptable there and really it isn’t.  It would be called name-calling at best and bullying at worst.

Using the word ‘remainers’ is fine as it clearly indicates someone’s view-point without being derogatory.  It gives us a shorthand for talking about issues.  As does the word ‘leavers’. I’m not mad keen on the word Brexit as I think it’s a bit ugly, but I don’t find that offensive. Ditto for words derived from it by and large.

I am amazed by the number of people who think it is great fun to write comments on the 48% Facebook page and on the websites of newspapers and the like, basically insulting a large proportion of the population with their taunts and jibes about the referendum decision.  Frankly I’m ashamed of their behaviour and I don’t even know them. I do wonder if I should really be feeling sorry for them, as they don’t appear to have anything better or worthwhile to do.  They don’t seem to be wanting to work towards unity or find a way to make the decision work for us, they seem to be all about goading and trying to provoke a reaction.  They don’t seem to be contributing much to our country about from trying to create resentment or get one over on someone else.  I suspect that they were bullies at school and they have continued with their behaviour in adult life, but I don’t know that.  Maybe it’s a cry for help.

Hijacking of Facebook Posts

I enter a lot of online competitions and I come across the hijacking of competition posts on Facebook a lot.  Basically most people on the Facebook thread are entering the competition, but a few are there to air their grievances against the firm.

I don’t know if these people don’t know how to contact a firm on Facebook without using an existing thread or if they are deliberately using it as a way of showing the firm up.  Either way I hate it.  I am not interested if your order is delayed or if it’s faulty.  I don’t want that intruding into what I am doing i.e. entering competitions.  Surely it takes a particular type of arrogance if you think it’s ok to impose your tales about your problems on other people?

This morning I came across a Currys competition and had to scroll down quite a way to come across a comment that wasn’t a complaint.  I’d been thinking about writing this post for a while, but this really made me angry.  I couldn’t give a monkeys if Currys have messed you a complete stranger around and I don’t think you should expect me to read the comments you have put up. Either learn to use Facebook correctly (if it is ignorance that is causing the problem) or stop selfishly putting your problems into my feed. It really is that simple.  Don’t hijack Facebook competition posts.  Send a personal message or post on their wall if you like, but I don’t want to see it on competition posts frankly.  It reflects badly on you in my eyes and I don’t see it as a negative against the company because I am annoyed with your behaviour and not theirs. In fact, I feel sorry for them because you are messing up their Facebook page.


Getting Ready For A Trip

We are off away today and I am sinking under all the jobs I need to get done.  Shouldn’t be writing this really, but it’s a chance to get it off my chest.

I have errands to run; work to finish; and of course, there is packing to do too.  I’m not quite sure how I will get things done, but I’m sure I’ll find a way.  I’ve set myself a deadline for the other stuff, the stuff that could be left if need be and then I will dedicate myself solely to getting ready for the trip.

I’m looking forward to going, but there have been a few obstacles put in our way which have made things more stressful than they need to be.  I’m not convinced that the hotel we are staying at is very customer service driven in view of their actions and I’m far from impressed.  Given that I’m supposed to be reviewing my trip, it makes things a little difficult to get off to such a bad start.

In fact, I’ll be glad when we are on our way and can just get on with enjoying ourselves.  Also, I’ll be glad when the travel is out of the way and we are finally at our last hotel.  I’m intrigued to see if the hotel will go out of their way to make up for their mistake, I’m getting the vibes that it will be a no, but obviously I’m hoping to pleasantly surprised.

Hoping too that all goes to plan with our complicated travel arrangements – seems to be too many steps in the process and it could all go horribly wrong.  Fingers crossed it won’t though and it will all be a fun adventure.  Wish us luck as we head south-westwards hopefully on a memorable holiday for all the right reasons.

Parking Again

Parking at the school seems to go from bad to worse.  The head teacher sends out regular reminders and this morning she was out there checking herself.  Even so, I regularly see a lot of bad, inconsiderate and dangerous parking.

The bus stop parking goes on.  Different people this year I think mostly.  I heard one father joking about how he had parked at the bus stop (because that’s a really funny thing to laugh about isn’t it?).    It seems to be a bit of a man thing to park there.  More men than women do it and given that more women do the pick up, it does stand out a bit.

Zigzag parking goes on too.  One woman I’ve seen dropping her kids off on the zigzags twice. Given that I tend to avoid going around that side because that sort of thing annoys me, I’m inclined to think she does it most days.  I know she’s not someone who is very considerate of others because she was regularly letting her kids run around the gardens of the neighbouring flats.  The gardens are very manicured and not suitable for a boisterous boy to be running around.  I’m glad her kids aren’t in my son’s year because I wouldn’t want my child mixing with them.

It’s all a bit silly and laughable because there is loads of free, easy parking available if you are prepared to walk a minute or two.  I do wonder if some parents still have the use of their legs, or if they have withered away due to lack of use.  I hate the fact that the lack of consideration is getting worse because it doesn’t bode well for the state of our future society.  A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and is appreciated, plus it’s so easy to do.