Late Decision To Be A Mum

I was the eldest child of a big family and grew up with lots of pesky, younger brothers and sisters.  I think it was this experience of younger children, particularly during my teenage years, that put me off having children of my own.  When you’ve had younger siblings giggling behind the sofa when your boyfriend is round or making lots of noise while you are trying to revise for exams, you don’t tend to think of young children as endearing or desirable.
In adulthood I firmly maintained that I wasn’t having any.  Friends started to have children and I still wasn’t interested.  I was quite happy with my decision.  I got on well with the children of my friends, but I didn’t go out of my way to deliberately spend time with them. 
I’m not sure what happened, maybe it was that biological clock that started ticking ever louder.  Maybe I was curious to know what a child of mine would be like.  Anyway I decided that I would like a child, but I was already the wrong side of 35.  Luckily my husband was amenable.  He’d always said he was happy to have children and happy to not have children.  So we got to work.
One early miscarriage and several months later, I had a very faint line on a pregnancy test.  I couldn’t resist testing every day and gradually the line got a bit darker until it was in no doubt.  Happiness and relief were the dominant emotions.  I had been worried that I’d left it too late and we’d just been referred for infertility tests.  In fact, I’d had some blood tests done during the cycle when I got pregnant and my hormone levels had all been normal for that month at least.
Now it’s difficult sometimes to imagine a time without my son.  I certainly can’t imagine life without him.  There’s no doubt in my mind that I made the right decision, even if I left it rather late to decide to be a mum. 

Early Mornings

Don’t know about you, but I’m wondering when children grow out of early mornings?  My son J is 6 and still wakes me before 6am on a regular basis.  Even on a relative lie in day, I’d be very lucky to make it past 6.30.  And it has to be mummy that gets up too, but that’s another story.

Changing bedtime makes no difference.  Even when he went to bed at midnight (we arrived late back from holiday) he was up at 6.30 the next day.  This makes occasional late nights and tiring days problematic as he doesn’t get any extra sleep in the morning to compensate and hence is grumpy for a day or two while he recovers.  We do try to keep to the routine and don’t like to vary from it by more than about half an hour as a result.  Some parents seem to be unconcerned about keeping their children up later on holiday, etc.  Maybe they have children who recover quicker and aren’t adverse to the occasional lie in.

So what happens when children get older and change their sleeping patterns.  Will he change overnight into a teenager like child wanting long lie ins?  Will it be gradual?  Is it in steps and stages? What’s your experience of sleep development in children?  What can I expect for the future?

Dry At Night

My son (J) is still wearing nappies at 6.  We have tried going without a nappy; we’ve tried lifting him; we’ve waiting for dry nappies in the morning; reduced drinks later in the day, but so far nothing has worked.  He did manage 9 dry nights on the trot with no nappy back when he was 4.  On the tenth day he had his preschool MMR booster (I’m not saying there is a connection – it may well have been a coincidence) and after that he was wet.  We put him back in nappies because it wasn’t doing anyone any good having a wet bed every night.  We thought in time it would happen.  Hopefully, it will.

I’ve done a bit of research and it seems that there’s no need to consult a doctor currently.  He’s very reliably dry during the day and has been for two to three years.  If he’s still wetting the bed or his nappy at 7, it would be worth seeking advice. 

Bed wetting runs in families and his father used to wet the bed, so it may well be a genetic thing.

Part of me is happy to wait and let him take his time.  After all a nappy is very easy to use – he’s still able to wear size 6 nappies so no need for expensive pyjama pants, etc.  It doesn’t cost that much to have one nappy a day.  I’m not having to wash sheets constantly because they are getting wet at night.  I think my nerve will hold and I won’t force the issue, but a sneaky little part of me wants to take some action, get it sorted and cross it off the to do list.

When did your child become dry at night?  Did you do anything to make that happen?  Did your child initiate it?  Do you have any tips?